"Out beyond the ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there."
Love and Relationship Coaching
The most important relationship you have, is the one you have with yourself!
Every other relationship in your life will be a reflection of that. Self love is so important, but most people don't even know what that looks like or how it affects their relationship with others. We all want only to love and be loved unconditionally, but sometimes we don't understand how our own actions and reactions, false beliefs and negative self-talk can harm the relationships we cherish the most.
Owning our story is the bravest and most empowering thing we can do! A relationship coach can help you discover what is holding you back from having and creating the relationships you desire. Relationships need to be started and pursued with purpose. What does that mean? It means taking the time to discover what you really want and need in a relationship. What you will and will not settle for and what is a deal breaker. When you set and keep those boundaries, you are better equipped to create the relationship you desire, instead of trying to make a relationship work that wasn't supposed to. You need to be honest and clear about who you are, so you can honor who you are with and decide if that person is truly aligned with what you want to create.
To do that, communication is key! Open, respectful communication is essential to any long term healthy relationship. Communicate to solve problems. Calm, constructive conversation is vital to solving conflict and ensuring each individual feels heard, seen, valued and loved. When we hear only to respond, instead of listening to exactly what is being said, there will be much more room for resolution. When both partners are free to express their opposing views with respect, resolution and compromise as the shared goal, it is easier to negotiate the direction of change. Unresolved, dismissed or ignored conflict, stress or hurt feelings leads to arguments about seemingly irrelevant issues. A relationship coach can help you get to the deeper issue at play that needs to be explored and addressed so it can be healed!
Being loved for who we are and loving another in that same way is a gift. Expressing love in any relationship is essential. We all get to be exactly who we choose to be. If we enter into relationships hoping to fix the other person to be who WE need them to be, we are setting the relationship up for struggle. Similarly, if we are expecting our partner to be responsible for our happiness, we are giving away our power and putting undo pressure on the relationship. We are all responsible for our own happiness.
Love is a super power, it is the deepest desire of our hearts. If you do not feel happy, valued, loved and appreciated in a relationship, it may be time to turn to a professional to help you love yourself and remove any blocks within yourself that you may have regarding love. We must be willing to explore the depths of our own pain to heal our hearts and open to love.
All relationships are in your life to teach you, to help you, to hurt you, to guide you to the person you were meant to be. Love is never wasted, so love fully and honor yourself in every way so you can honor another. You will be lead to exactly where you belong, to create the life and love of your dreams and I am here to help!