Allyson Fusella, AADP, CHC

​973-396-2408

The journey to heal your heart is ultimately about self love. We acknowledge its necessity, but we can fail to address one very powerful reason for it's absence - lack of unconditional parental love. We lay fault at our own feet, denying the insidious damage that has stolen the very thing we seek. We run from it, or hide it away, believing we are protecting ourselves, when the exact opposite is true. Most adult children of a narcissistic parent, do not even realize the cause of their emptiness, anxiety, depression and lack of self love. It is all they know. It is what they learned from those that should have loved them the most. The result is a distorted view of what love looks like.


There is no pain in love and pure love is healing and powerful. You must learn you are capable and worthy of real true love and allow that wisdom to heal you. When you feel like you are not good enough, that feeling does significant damage to your self worth and to your sense of belonging. If you are not allowed to develop a sense of self, you feel lost and mistreat yourself as a result. Only you can make choices and decisions that shape who you are and who you will become.


When you fall into an unconscious cycle of learned beliefs, you lose yourself and you lose your way. You may despise where you are, but you count on its consistency. I am here to support you, to disrupt the illusion. Together we will look at some of the hard questions to get to the root of what is stressing your life such as:


  • Why do we lose touch with ourselves in favor of chasing validation from others?
  • How do we justify in our own minds, that it is ever okay to dishonor and disrespect ourselves?
  • What makes it okay to constantly second guess ourselves and to hold ourselves to a standard so high, it is virtually unattainable? 
  • Where do we find the peace of mind that we seek?


Let your heart break, so you can reveal the pain, feel the pain and ultimately heal the pain. I want to offer a solution other than masking and medicating the pain. I want to reach out and grab every adult child who feels unloved and lost and let them know they are not alone. I am going to teach you that it is possible to give yourself the unconditional love you wanted and needed from your mother and/or father. I will help you search for the road blocks that are keeping you stuck and support you in believing that you are worth the time and effort it takes to heal your broken heart. I will guide you to blaze a new trail, to make a new choice, and to value and appreciate the lessons relevant to your journey.  It is my hope to be the shining light that leads you out of the darkness. You will heal as you realize your power, your beauty, and your unique magnificence that only you can bring to the world!